Clothes mean nothing, until someone lives in them
This clothing thing in Nigeria is such a mindset thing, just like the mindset that “if you are not sweating and panting, you are not praying right”. Most of our religious values in Nigeria stemmed from the culture of our forefathers and not from the bible.
I am a firm believer in decency but also a true believer of comfort. Let people wear what they are comfortable in! Some Nigerians, always want you to pretend to be who you’re not (back to our culture again). They have made themselves judge and jury of dress standard in Nigeria.
I find it difficult that in this “woke” era, certain people still judge women based on the type of clothes they wear. I understand that the way we dress is the way we are addressed, but should that always be the case?
The other day I went for a beauty pageant organised by a church group. We had a clash with the organisers regarding the dress code of a friend who was a representative. Firstly, during the question session they asked her if she was a christian, and then went further to ask her what she understands by decency. She answered accordingly, but obviously had her reservations about those questions because it felt like an attack.
Eventually she won (YASSS!!!). We thought that was over but to our surprise, some people became angry and insultive towards us, saying that she didn’t abide to the dress code rule for the competition. Bear in mind that this dress code rule was “wear any traditional attire of your choice”…and we picked the igbo bride first outing look, which required the exposure of the shoulder area.
After much ado, it was funny how they still stood their ground about the outfit not being decent enough. I mean there are poverty issues, deaths, etc, and all some people are concerned about is what someone wore? So much for priorities! and this is what will forever hold us back; focusing on the wrong things.
Personally, imposing your beliefs on another is wicked. We were all brought up differently hence, think differently. As far as I’m concerned, my dressing hasn’t killed anyone yet, what about you?