Has someone ever told you, “you are not capable” …and I don’t mean in a polite way but a very rude manner. I mean it hurts just hearing such because it can kill your self-esteem.

Few months ago, I worked on a project with a colleague and it exceeded my expectation despite the challenges encountered.  We were both happy, or so I thought, until that statement was made to me. Honestly, it changed my mood throughout that week, I kept wondering if I did anything incompetent that would have warranted such remark. I was really annoyed since I practically worked hard to see to the success of it and then instead of being praised I was being condemned, I had no zeal to do anything again.

Coincidentally, I was on a devotional plan (Hope in the Dark by Craig Groeschel) that period, which assisted in reassuring me about my capabilities. I remember praying and Jeremiah 29:11 came to mind:

For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.

I felt peace afterwards and made up my mind that I was going to be intentional about the type of statements I let in by people who do not see my light.

Realistically speaking, it isn’t easy to shut out negative comments. I am still a work-in-progress, but if you put your mind to it, you will eventually yield results.

A major thing that works for me is praying and watching funny skits when I’m in my down moment.

What are your default responses to negative remarks or life happenings generally? Let’s share to encourage each other.



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